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what to say?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Bigkrygowski Nov 19, 2011. 10 Replies

kids books about autism?

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the fear

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Danica replied to wookie's discussion 'What do you WISH you could give your kids for Christmas?'
"I wish I could get my kid a real-sized Christmas tree, instead of the teeny tiny ones that fit on an end table, which is all we can fit into our under 800-square-foor house with no closets. Grrrr."
Dec 9, 2011
Bigkrygowski replied to Danica's discussion 'what to say?'
"After our loss the one thing that helped a lot was food. Neither of us wanted to cook and honestly we both stopped eating regular meals. It was a wonderful thing to have friends drop by with dinner in hand. I know you said it was long distance but…"
Nov 19, 2011
Danica replied to Danica's discussion 'what to say?'
"Thanks everyone, this is helpful.  I've reached out for ideas in some other communities as well, and one thing that I keep coming back to is to keep in touch, especially on birthdays, anniversaries, etc.   We have chatted a couple of…"
Nov 18, 2011
Mommy Monster replied to Danica's discussion 'what to say?'
"My absolute worst nightmare.  I'm so sorry for her loss.   I think you've been very appropriate and I think the follow up after a month or two will be absolutely critical.  I recently read a blog series called…"
Nov 16, 2011
The Oracle replied to Danica's discussion 'what to say?'
"Oh, god, Danica, I'm sorry. I'm always afraid of spouting platitudes, too, but it's okay to acknowledge outright that words are inadequate. Also, I third the importance of making sure support and compassion are there for her…"
Nov 16, 2011
mcglory13 replied to Danica's discussion 'what to say?'
"Yes, send something. Not flowers, but something nice. Something that she would like. I mean... there's nothing to say, it's pretty much every parents' worst fear. Something nice will say you're thinking about her without offering…"
Nov 14, 2011
mightyninjamom replied to Danica's discussion 'what to say?'
"Not much to add, what everyone has already said seems to be all you can do right now. My daughter just turned 7 a few days ago - if she died now, I would be inconsolable. What a tragedy. I'm so sorry this happened to her little girl."
Nov 14, 2011
ks replied to Danica's discussion 'what to say?'
"I have no idea what else that could be said.  That is just horrible.   But I think Tea has a good idea about keeping up the support after time has passed.  She's definitely going to need it--I can't even imagine."
Nov 14, 2011
Tea replied to Danica's discussion 'what to say?'
"Continue being supportive now but remember that she will continue to need support in the weeks to come even after most people have stopped calling.  If travel isn't possible a short note each week possibly with a treat (choclate, fancy tea…"
Nov 14, 2011
kommishoner replied to Danica's discussion 'what to say?'
"I think it sounds like you're saying all the right things.  Maybe a gift certificate of something she would like?  A collection of photos and memories of her daughter (maybe save that for a couple of weeks)?  And yeah, if…"
Nov 14, 2011
wookie replied to Danica's discussion 'what to say?'
"I'm not sure that anything other than that is okay to say.   Other than going down to be there with her, there isn't much you can do from the distance.  If she is that kind of friend, and it is even plausible, go."
Nov 14, 2011
Danica posted a discussion

what to say?

An old friend (now long distance) lost her 7-year-old daughter this weekend. Lots of us are communicating with her via phone and email, but I feel at such a loss... I don't know what to say.  Neither of us is religious,  and she is too far away to offer to help with any of the logistical stuff she has to deal with with her two other children. She is going through such a nightmare, something no parent should ever have to face, and frankly I feel terrified putting myself in her place, imagining…See More
Nov 14, 2011
Danica replied to G to the G's discussion 'Liking your kid?'
"Wow.  It's hard to read someone being so critical about their child, and the mean, judgmental language she used really rubbed me the wrong way too.  It seems to me that there is a big difference between not liking everything your…"
Jun 9, 2011
Danica replied to Bigkrygowski's discussion 'So today is Bunny's offical due date....'
"Yay! Congrats!"
May 26, 2011
Danica replied to Andromeda's discussion 'playing with Private P'
"E is just four, but today she asked me while she was on the potty, "when you were a kid, did you like touching that part up inside your vulva? Because I sure do." I haven't noticed her wandering hands except in the bath from time to…"
Mar 23, 2011
Danica replied to G to the G's discussion 'Books?'
"I was just about to recommend this one, it's next to my bed right now. :) I've also really enjoyed Buddhism for Mothers, just reading it calms me down. "
Feb 21, 2011

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About Me:
Stay-at-home mama to E, born 12-06. Partner to J, for 10 years, none of them boring.
What's something about your kid(s) that makes you happy?
Her amazing ability to verbalize how she's feeling, what she wants, and what she thinks about things going on around her.
What's your most recent kid-related public humiliation?
E loudly verbalizing, to everyone she sees, how she's feeling, what she wants, and what she thinks about things going on around her.
What about contemporary parenting culture pisses you off the most?
Pitting parents against each other, instead of finding common ground for support.
Who were you BEFORE you became a parent?
An early childhood educator (infant/toddler teacher), childbirth education student, aware of world events, able to carry on adult conversations, and rested.
Favorite music/books/TV/movies:
Music: Ani DiFranco, Neko Case, Avett Brothers, Langhorn Slim, Spearhead

Books: Lord of the Rings, Kurt Vonnegut, Tom Robbins, the Outlander series. Hunter Thompson

TV/Movies: Lost, BSG, Buffy, Mad Men, West Wing, Rushmore, Raising Arizona, Big Lebowski, LOTR
OPTIONAL: Do you have a sex life?
Yes, a wonderful one! :)

Danica's Blog

taking a break

Posted on March 13, 2010 at 8:57am 15 Comments

So, this is the first online community that I've ever really been a part of, and there have been a lot of things about it over the last two years or so that I've really enjoyed, and times that people here have definitely helped me out. Offered advise, given perspective, talked me down from mama-craziness. I love that people have a sense of humor, that I've felt safe to rant about my kid or husband or life. I've liked that there seem to be people here parenting their kids in lots of different… Continue

a diagnosis

Posted on September 28, 2009 at 9:51am 4 Comments

So, as I've posted about once or twice before, we have a nephew who we've been worried about for quite some time. He is currently 4 and 1/2, and is completely non-verbal. He squeals when he is unhappy, which is most of the time, and engages in lots of repetitive behavior, like tapping hard toys against the tv screen, spinning things around on the floor, etc. My SIL and her husband (although it's safe to say that she makes the decisions in their family, and he goes along with them) have wrapped… Continue

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