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The Spankings Will Continue Until Morale Improves...
My son (now 25 months) has been a "biter" now for several months, if not a year. It used to happen on a daily basis, now every few weeks we get a "bite report" from daycare. It became the new normal. However, in the past two weeks he has become a complete sociopath. He now spits on kids and when a teacher gets down on her knee to correct him he either slaps them or spits on them as well.
They do "time-outs" and he will take his "naughty circle" seat cushion and chuck it and run back into the fray of playing kids, laughing. They've started to make him do timeouts in their business office. What worries them is that through all the punitive measures he is gleeful and completely remorseless. He can say most anything now, so they want him to repeat "No biting." or "Biting is not OK" and he will look at them and laugh or slap when they ask that. They will ask him to say "I'm sorry." He will. Then they will say "No biting" and he WON'T. I almost got him to say it today, he said "No bi..." and then shoved his hand in his mouth, laughed and garbled the end of it blowing a raspberry of spit. HOW PSYCHO IS THIS????
He pulled this at daycare for about a week and a half before he started it at home. I put him in timeout every time he hits me, but frankly he laughs at me, too (though I can get him to stay--in fact he's only two but he did a 10 minute stint today without batting an eyelash, he just sat there all smiling).
We've never spanked him, daycare obviously doesn't spank him. But I can't help think that if I pulled this shit on my parents, I would have gotten a swat on a diapered behind. I don't see him as a cute little boy anymore. I see him as a future serial killer who tortures small, furry animals. Someone suggested that we get him to a shrink stat before he's not allowed in school when he's 5. I'm a teacher, I know how easy it is to bend over backwards trying to help students that are genuinely nice kids, and how difficult it is to cut slack on the kids who act like total douche canoes. He was so mellow for 2 years, I want that baby back--even if it didn't sleep in 12 hour stretches with a 3 hour nap.
They do "time-outs" and he will take his "naughty circle" seat cushion and chuck it and run back into the fray of playing kids, laughing. They've started to make him do timeouts in their business office. What worries them is that through all the punitive measures he is gleeful and completely remorseless. He can say most anything now, so they want him to repeat "No biting." or "Biting is not OK" and he will look at them and laugh or slap when they ask that. They will ask him to say "I'm sorry." He will. Then they will say "No biting" and he WON'T. I almost got him to say it today, he said "No bi..." and then shoved his hand in his mouth, laughed and garbled the end of it blowing a raspberry of spit. HOW PSYCHO IS THIS????
He pulled this at daycare for about a week and a half before he started it at home. I put him in timeout every time he hits me, but frankly he laughs at me, too (though I can get him to stay--in fact he's only two but he did a 10 minute stint today without batting an eyelash, he just sat there all smiling).
We've never spanked him, daycare obviously doesn't spank him. But I can't help think that if I pulled this shit on my parents, I would have gotten a swat on a diapered behind. I don't see him as a cute little boy anymore. I see him as a future serial killer who tortures small, furry animals. Someone suggested that we get him to a shrink stat before he's not allowed in school when he's 5. I'm a teacher, I know how easy it is to bend over backwards trying to help students that are genuinely nice kids, and how difficult it is to cut slack on the kids who act like total douche canoes. He was so mellow for 2 years, I want that baby back--even if it didn't sleep in 12 hour stretches with a 3 hour nap.
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Permalink Reply by mightyninjamom on -
Well, my parents were very consistent in the beatings, if not their choice of tool. Their explanation that it was for my own good and it hurt them more than it hurt me made very little sense, however. :D Leaving out the beating part, would still have been effective!
Joe Mama said:I think consistancy and explanations are key to any discipline approach.
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