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The Achiever has been spitting. At everybody.  At everything.  Any reason.  With excellent aim. Take the stern road (firm no/time out) or downplay (calmly show where to spit (outside/sink) and distract?

Advice for a 24 month old?

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Sorry, I got nothin'. I'm waaaay past that phase, and neither of my kids was into spitting. How does he tend to react when he gets punished for something else? I'd say, use whatever has been working!
I'd be taking the firm but calm approach with the "here's a cloth, little man...you'll now be cleaning that up" and plenty of discussion about how spit can contain germs and it's possible that he'd get someone sick if he spits at them. He'd be cleaning it up though - every time...even if it meant I helped his little arm do the cleaning.
I like kanachick's idea. Plus, if you're getting him to clean it up, you're probably not either laughing or getting upset, which will probably extinguish that behavior pretty fast.

Spit is the one bodily fluid that kind of sends me over the edge, sanity-wise. I can pretty much deal with all the others, but spitting on purpose drives me absolutely bonkers.
My kids didn't go through a spitting phase, but I've heard of parents giving kids a place where it's okay to spit (in the bathroom sink, in the yard, etc.) and redirecting them there when they get spitty. Good luck...
The Dragon did this, VERY BRIEFLY because I got so, so, sooooooo pissed off when he did it that I guess he realized quickly that it wasn't worth it.

Now, he didn't do it for no reason/any reason -- he did it when he was pissed off about something. So if this is a just-because thing, I might downplay it. But if it's an anger thing, like it was with us, I'd go the stern ballistic route. I mean, I'm pretty tolerant of a lot of emotional displays but that one was just ... no.
Ebay didn't have a phase so much as every once in a while she blows big wet raspberries, but I did basically what Kanachick said. When she drenched me or someone else, I made her go and fetch a cloth diaper and clean up the face of whoever she was looking at (usually me) and then take it all the way up to her laundry bin. It doesn't happen very often.
This is what Mr. C does. NB taught him how to blow raspberries and now he does it ALL. THE. TIME. because he thinks it's hilarious. The image of you making Ebay clean your face cracks me up because I've had to do that with Mr. C before.

Herasmus B. Dragon said:
Ebay didn't have a phase so much as every once in a while she blows big wet raspberries, but I did basically what Kanachick said. When she drenched me or someone else, I made her go and fetch a cloth diaper and clean up the face of whoever she was looking at (usually me) and then take it all the way up to her laundry bin. It doesn't happen very often.
I would venture a guess that you paid too much attention to him as a baby and now he runs the show. Better whip him into shape now or he's going to end up making you run away crying when he's a teenager. :P

I like kanachick's method, The Miniature did this very briefly as a toddler and it pissed me off. I think we would tell him, "NO. No spitting." then turn away and ignore him for a minute. It wasn't fun anymore so he stopped.
D'OH! I guess you didn't see Floorpie's thread titled, "Is your sassy child out of control?". I'm not seriously suggesting this is about poor parenting on your part.
bWAH! Sassy child... yes, I'm sure it's all my fault, godless heathen that I am. Nothing to do with a child's need to assert himself or learning boundaries, eh?

Thanks for all the advice! Combo of reminding where spitting is ok and cleaning up after himself seems to be working. For now...

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