Hi! I've been an inactive member for quite a while but have a feeling I'm going to be spending more and more time with you crazy kids.
I've been a (separated) single mom for seven weeks and 10 hours (not that I'm counting). The divorce should be final around Halloween, but I've already legally changed my name back. My beautiful, sweet, amazing son is 2 years and 9 months old. My asshat non-husband has moved into an apartment (that we totally can't afford) in town while P and I live in the house we bought just 8 months ago, trying to sell it. I am finalizing the separation agreement with my laywer tomorrow, and it will basically become the divorce settlement, so I need to make sure I have everything: child support, spousal support, me continuing on his health insurance for at least a year (this is one area I'm particularly afraid of), our son continuing under his health insurance until he's 18, joint legal custody and primary physical custody. Can anyone think of anything else I'd need?
I'm also concerned about what I should be doing or not be doing for my son's well-being. He seems just as happy as before. He is acting out a little because I basically need to ignore him anytime we have a showing so I can get the house ready. (We've had 9 showings in 3 weeks.) That part is really hard for me to deal with, but there are truly no other options. I stick him in front of Sesame Street and hope for the best. I know it will be the same for when we move, which I hate. But otherwise, I think I'm a much better mother now than I was when I was in a tense and unhappy marriage.
So... do any BTDT moms or dads have any advice for someone just starting out on this roller-coaster? I don't know what I don't know. Thanks. :-)