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My three year old is an asshole
I just need to get this vent out. My three year old acts like a drunk frat boy sterotype in terms of manners, patience and consideration for others.
Today, as I was talking my 6 year old off the ledge of vomiting in the car, the three year old started demanding that I get him... an ice cube. RIGHT NOW. DON'T SAY NO! NO SAY LATER! I WANT NOW! YOU ARE MEAN! I DON'T LIKE YOU ANYMORE. NO LATER! Literally yelling to get over what I'm trying to say to soothe the sick kid.
It's times like this (I'm sick myself) where I just want to haul off and slap him not because he's being unreasonable but because he's being selfish and insensitive, which for some reason cuts me deep. Instead I dropped a few threats about having to go to bed early with no story and while he didn't stop bitching, he got more to normal volume.
I know that he's three... but I don't remember my other kids being this overtly assholeish. Am I doing something wrong that he's acting like such a prick?
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Permalink Reply by Zealflyer on -
I had the same question about whether I was a good enough parent to have two kids when I was pregnant with my daughter. I had noooo patience for the little dude all of a sudden. I'm still not sure if it was because he was at a really challenging age or because pregnancy made me a raging b*tch, but whatever the case, I was just losing it over everything. What I found was that after I had the baby (well, after the first few months, which were also hellish to be honest) my expectations of myself were lowered and this made me feel like a more calm, sane person. Not like I stopped doing the important things as a parent, but I no longer expected myself to be so all-fired nice all the time and play with my son all the time and hang on every little word that came out of his mouth. Somehow, it just took the intensity out of our relationship and I'm pretty sure that I'll never have that kind of intensity with my daughter (although she is by nature 100% more intense than the dude). Perhaps I'm just fooling myself and when we reach the 2's and 3's with her, I'll be a raging madwoman again. But I can't imagine dedicating an entire afternoon to making her nap or any of the (in retrospect) wacky stuff that I did with the dude.
rommie said:This is why I love you guys. I was debating for days about spilling my guts over being the worst mom ever (or so it feels) for the last few months. I don't have a three-year-old, nor am I particularly looking forward to having one after reading all this, but my two-year-old drives me insane on a regular basis. He's a classic "good" kid, an easy kid who's adorable and snuggly and bright and becoming more articulate by the day, but he's also very...two. I have vast stores of patience for other people's kids, but those don't seem to transfer over to my own on some days. I bite my tongue to keep from screaming at him, and while I would never intentionally hurt him, I feel like slapping him silly on occasion. (Let me reiterate: I do not do so. I would never. ever. ever hurt him. Ever.)
I've been wavering over whether it's a good idea to have another kid if I can barely handle one on some days. I'm worried that if we foster or adopt, in particular, some social worker is going to wander in on a bad day when I'm hanging on by a thread and take both kids away. Or just that I'd be a horrible mother and that the kids would be better off with someone else.
Or, uh, just that I'm normal and that apparently I'm not the only one who doesn't think her child is made of spun sugar and just wants to smile and chat about rainbows all day while being impeccably dressed. So thanks. I needed that.
Also, my existing kid is back to clinging to my leg and whining again, so I should probably skip the spellcheck and go deal with lunch. Sorry.
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Permalink Reply by DLBK on -
Do YOU think a behavior chart might help with your child's anger? I tried a chart with stickers for potty training when mine was 2.5 and he nearly laughed at it. It was useless. I explained the concept (after a few stickers you get a toy) and he looked at me and said "I have a lot of toys, mommy!" Seriously. When he was ready to use the potty at almost 3 he started doing so without any rewards necessary. I never brought back the sticker chart. However, my best friend's twins absolutely loved their sticker chart for potty training. I guess it depends on the child. You know yours best.
bap2 said:I was just about to chime in the other day and say that as we are about 14 days away from 4 it is *vastly* different from the infernal bowels of age 3. Wow. He became manageable at home. It helped we took away the TV, his little addiction.
I say "was just about to" because when I picked him up from daycare today they told me he needs a behavior chart because he is "quick to anger" and "edgy." Really? A behavior chart is going to help that? If someone comes and takes his toy away he will screetch in their face, sometimes he will throw another toy. I'm pleased because he is no longer biting them or hitting them!
Does anyone else have a "quick to anger" child? Do you think he'll be a serial killer?
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