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Just don't
take on your kids in a homework argument when you are feeling inadequate about your own success. I know homework is supposed to be their process, but some of the stuff that leaves this house has been appalling. The phrase ,"you have to do it over" - them's fightin' words.
Plus, he doesn't seem to think that other kids work hard, so he doesn't have to either. The fact that his friends are all a bit spoiled and entitled doesn't seem to cross their mind. If he has to work harder to get the same result as others, he feels inferior to the other kids, and that's death. I can sort of see the validity of that point of view.
I hate myself for yelling at him over this. It's incredibly damaging to our relationship. But what kind of life is he going to have handing in mediocre work?
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Permalink Reply by Herasmus B. Dragon on
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Why does the label "perfection" have to be attached to "I want you to do your best"? Who among us is so perfect that their best is flawless? It's OK to make mistakes even when you work hard. If no mistakes are made, there's nothing to learn from.
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Permalink Reply by wookie on -
Math is not a huge strength because of the inaccuracies she falls into in copying. She may later discover a strength in the "figuring things out" for math but right now, in elementary school, it's an uphill thing.
She loves art and drama and we give her what opportunities we can to pursue both. She's very "hands on"... can build things from kits (like robots) and has far better color sense than any of the adults in our house. Her strength is her empathy and compassion, she's incredibly verbal and articulate. She has tons of strengths, they just aren't things that are going to get her through elementary school easily.
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Sounds like she'd make a great social worker or teacher one day. She'll have the added experience of having worked through these troubles, and can empathize with children in need of adult help, and their parents to understand what's going on in their kids' heads.
wookie said:Her strength is her empathy and compassion, she's incredibly verbal and articulate. She has tons of strengths, they just aren't things that are going to get her through elementary school easily.
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Permalink Reply by Floor Pie on -
Wookie, she sounds just like some people I know. One of them grew up to make her living as an artist, the other is a tech guy for a big company. Neither is a particularly great speller, but they manage. Good for you for giving her opportunities to pursue her areas of strength.
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