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Financially protecting the SAH partner
Being the primary caregiver at home carries some fabulous benefits, but the position also has the drawback of creating no clear economic claim in return for one's labor. Further, not only are SAH partners not benefiting financially from their present labor, but they are arguably also losing out on the opportunity to develop the skills and experience that would let them move on to a decently-paying job once they no longer need to be full-time caregivers.
Now, I know these considerations come into play when marriages end -- in the form of alimony payments. But what about for the happy, ongoing relationship? In your own partnership, what do you do to protect the more-vulnerable financial future of the SAH partner, and how do you maintain a sense of financial equity in the present?
Now, I know these considerations come into play when marriages end -- in the form of alimony payments. But what about for the happy, ongoing relationship? In your own partnership, what do you do to protect the more-vulnerable financial future of the SAH partner, and how do you maintain a sense of financial equity in the present?
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I think it will work out really well. Everyone's excited to have me there actively managing to take off the pressure they have now. I just do better at keeping people communicating properly. Ted and I also decided we are both going to be training her. He's a lot less hands on than I am and I think she really needs someone to tell her what to do and show her as well as watch her all at once. Ted just doesn't have the patience with that like I do.
As far as the sterile room goes, like I said, the back room is huge, it's pretty much half the shop and will, eventually, have three more tattoo stations back there too. Evey's area is right up front and I can see her from anywhere I go in my piercing room since we (I) planned it out that way and took the room in the back of the actual shop right before you enter the back. The whole right side is a walled in counter top with edges we are turning into a giant light table, and that's where her "nursery" is going to be set up. I have a couple of Tattoo customers that are trading out work for their girlfriends so that I can have them start building up the walls back there on the days Evey and I aren't there.
There will be one all the way to the ceiling wall that's going to block in the sterile room better and have glass along the clean area, that way when I give the tours they don't have to see the bio area at all and just see the clean area. Then the tattoo stations are going to have walls that are about 2 feet short of the ceiling (floor to ceiling, the room is 10 feet). These rooms will have doors like the rest and even be a little bigger than the two out front as a compensation for being in the back. We are running a counter top the whole length of the wall with sinks in all the rooms. The "nursery" will get turned into the break room when we get her a sitter I trust. I have about 12 clients that are 11th and 12th graders that will work for next to nothing. So, that's more of an issue of me, not her. I'm having a hard time thinking about not being with my best friend all day, but she'll be 4 months next week, so I need to start getting her used to people and once that happens I know I'll feel better about leaving her home with one of the girls. I admit, I'm gonna miss the hell out of her, but I know it's better for her. We don't plan on any of that until closer to spring though.
As far as keeping her out of the sterile room and all the chemicals, we have locks on the door to that room and only I have the key because I have a better autoclave than the hospital I gave birth in, so no one gets to touch it except me. Plus, I keep a very detailed autoclave log and I don't trust even my husband, to keep it up to date with the correct information. So, that's not only an issue of keeping her out, it's an issue of keeping everyone out...LOL
I can't thank you guys enough for the support and feedback you've been giving me. I NEVER got this on any of the other sites I was on, so I really appreciate it, more than you can ever know.
Take care!
Me
jenra said:I hope the compromise works out! It's hard to get all the bits and peices together as a family, isn't it? Your shop sounds great, once Evey gets used to the new smells and sounds and all that it should work out. Will you be able to afford a sitter or daycare when she's a little older? I can't imagine keeping a toddler/preschoooler out of the sterile rooms all the time (sounds like a major chore!), but some kids are way more obedient and chill. I do know kids that would be fine to chill in the back room with the stuff they are meant to be playing with.
I'm glad to hear your apprentice lady is taking the "demotion" well. It's a really serious thing when a person has a bad tat, hopefully her training will help her be better.
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