Yeah, jumping on the Google train. We each have a calendar with colour coded entries with sports, appts etc. And my husband's work calendar sinks to it as well.
And I love the reminders! I set it up to remind me with an email notification 1 day (or more depending) before of an event. So for example, it's going to email me later today to remind me that my son starts gymnastics tomorrow. LOVE it. I have our due dates for credit cards, utilities etc.
I saw the Freddie Mercury Google homepage! He would have been 65 years old this month. I love his voice and stage presence.
As for calendars, I use a paper planner and write down all the birthdays in red at the beginning of the year, then add other events. My husband teases me that I need a computer-based calendar like his, but I'm the one who reminds him of every event, so my method is working ;-)
Speaking of Google, did anyone see the Freddy Mercury/Queen Google homepage the other day? it was cool.
Well, if you are arguing about paper v. electronic, you aren't the only one, see this NY Times article. I, of course, enjoyed this take down more.
Yes, if she doesn't have a smartphone, it is a bit more difficult. Although we were using electronic back when my husband manually synced his Nokia to Outlook to make it work.
Here's my reasons for liking electronic.
1) There's room for more information. Plenty of room to add: "Bring snack for 18 kids," "Actual appt at 8:30, but in calendar at 8:15 because that's when I'm supposed to arrive." "Make sure doctor fills in preschool paperwork."
2) You can add an address. I can then click on the address in my smartphone and have the phone navigate me to the location of the appointment.
3) I can monitor things that aren't actual appointments, but alter my life. Football games that I want to be home to watch, random holidays. I have a calendar for the all the free days at museums in the city. Obviously, I would never write all of them on a paper calendar, but they are nice to have in electronic form.
4) Easier to add recurring appointments. Birthdays? On the calendar in perpetuity. Soccer every Saturday? Entered once and I didn't have to touch it again.
5) Easier to spy on people (ok, maybe that's not a benefit). But my brother even gave me access to his calendar so that I know when to call when (he's a nurse and bounces between shifts) and can more easily plan a vacation to visit him because I can figure out his weekends off. Same with my husband. Do I want to see if he can be home early? If the calendar is blocked for a meeting until 6 pm, I know it is pointless to ask.
6) We spent less time talking about schedules (so theoretically more time to talk about important stuff). There's no phone call interrupting the day to ask about the schedule, we just know.
If you can't come to an agreement, it seems like one of you is going to have to take the responsibility of updating the master calendar, then physically handing the other person a copy so that they have it (or add it) to whatever system they prefer. So, if it was me, I would take over, create the electronic version, then print out a copy for her and the fridge weekly.
You need to get her frustrated with the paper calendar system. May I suggest hiding all good pens and pencils in the house and replacing them with empty pens and broken pencils.