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Dropping a Deuce
I love the quasi-anonymity of OS. A deuce, you know #2, the spare to the heir. It is becoming more apparent to me that constant nausea, sleeping all day, jittery all night, and dizzy round the clock does not mean "the flu" but, pregnant with number 2. I was in denial for close to two weeks, but finally did a test a few days ago that basically exploded with pink lines in my hands.
Of course this is why I love OS. It's still early so it's not like I can go blabbing it around everywhere, but what's it going to hurt for you guys to know. I can easily make a post called, "No longer dropping a deuce."
My problem is I had no idea I would be this ambivalent. Not about a second child, but the pregnancy. With my son I took about a million tests starting 6 days before I even could, I took the best pre-natals, I followed the rules to the letter and read all the books. I feel like such complete shit these days (how does the Duggar lady do it?), I can't even be arsed to remember a vitamin, let alone take it knowing I will vomit. I had an inkling this was going on for well over 3 weeks now, but every week seems to bring "my last hot dog." and "my last slice of prosciutto," "my last soft cheese." The worst are medications. With my son, I dealt with hives from the cats, allergies from the seasons, all with a smile and a neti pot. Now, I have so much crap to do, I feel so sick, screw it--I'm using a lot of Benadryl at night and using a nasal steroid, Flonase, during the day. I simply can't function without. We're living in a Ragweed sauna here at the moment.
Part of me is totally remorseful, woe to the embryo getting the short end of the stick. The other part of me realizes how over the top I went last time (No rum raisin ice cream--THAT'S BOOOOOOZE) and I feel that since he came out OK, I can ease up. I will probably reap the whirlwind and have an incredibly screwed up kid, then you can say "We told you so." I just need to vent, then curl up and lie motionless for a few hours while my son watches WAAAAAY to much TV in the past week.
So yeah, OS, don't mention this on Facebook. The only people who know are my husband (also meh) and my boss (he seems to be the happiest:)).
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Permalink Reply by TommysMommy on -
Congrats!
I was very ambivalent once I was pregnant with the 2nd as well even though we were definitely ready and trying for it. It was like, been there, done that! The 2nd kid just better start getting used to it now since it will continue with fewer baby pictures, emails sent to family recounted every little milestone etc!
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Permalink Reply by Boring User Name on -
Ok, I love the the title and your attitude.
But, um, I'm totally abandoning most of the rules I followed last time. Plus, 90% of the rules were crap--it's difficult to even find unpasteurized soft cheese in the states, so why the heck does anyone make a blanket rule? And check drugs.com or call your doctor if you want to, lots of allergy meds are totally fine during pregnancy.
If I get pregnant again, I guarantee you I will pretty much hate every moment of it. Heck, I won't even like the newborn days. It's the second child I would want, not the second pregnancy or even baby...
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Permalink Reply by LeastLikely2Breed on -
congratulations!
I wasn't gung-ho the first time so I have no idea what to say about #2 -- but more power to you, whatever you decided to do will be just fine :)
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Permalink Reply by jenra on -
Congratulations! I love the title, though I thought it was going to be about something different.
As for the precautions... What's up with prosciuttio? Nevermind, I'll look it up. I'm sure you'll be fine eating those things you really like though. Everything is pasturized, homogenized, legitimatized, analyzed these days.
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Permalink Reply by Kiwi on -
Congrats!
I was rather ambivalent with both pregnancies. I still took all my meds and even had the occasional glass of wine. They are both still alive and thriving. One of my friends went over the top with all her pregnancies and she even went so far as to wear a face mask all during cold/flu season. We mocked her a lot but she took it like a champ.
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Permalink Reply by Andromeda on -
Congrats!
i'm with everyone else. there are sooooooo many "oh no! you can't have/do that!!" that are just so bogus! sure, don't go drinkin' a sixer, but for goodness sake, have some cheese!! (some of you may have noticed that i read that Cheesemonger book. i posted about it on FB. He gets into some really interesting points about pregnancy and cheese. basically, any soft cheese that could potentially be bad isn't even legal in the states anyway, so seriously, eat all the brie you want!)
i was more careful with my second surprisingly. there was so much i wasn't told the first time that i thought i might have just dodged a bullet when i found out all the stuff i wasn't supposed to do. one thing i didn't forgo much of was ice cream though! i was pregnant during the spring with both my kids and i would have DIED if i hadn't been able to take meds for my allergies and stuffy nose. i was so congested the day of my wedding. i was so miserable. my wedding sucked.
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Permalink Reply by ruth on -
Well, congratulations! I get the ambivalence, believe me. I got pregnant with #2 WAY before I planned to be so it took me a while to wrap my mind around it. But yay for #2!!
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Permalink Reply by mcglory13 on -
Ok, now I feel like an ass because I wasn't all that concerned with my first kid. :) I drank a glass of wine a week, ate bleu cheese (cooked!), took migraine meds occasionally. He's fine. Totally fine. In fact, the only thing that could have hurt him was when I went all *must avoid drugs! natural labor!* That didn't work out very well at all.
Congrats! It's natural to not feel quite so, well, everything, the second time around, I think. I mean, the first time you drive some place it seems like it takes forever because you're really concerned about getting lost. After you've done the route before, your brain checks out, no?
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Permalink Reply by ks on -
Congrats to you.
I was pretty ambivalent with #2 as well. We planned to have another, but I wasn't really sure that I wanted to when I agreed to try again. I did it mainly because Mr. S wanted another and I didn't really want N to be an only. But I absolutely was not completely convinced that another kid was a good idea. With that, on top of the fact that being pregnant isn't exactly fun and games at the best of times, I didn't follow the rules as much as I should have either. Kid turned out okay, though.
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Permalink Reply by The Oracle on -
Oh yeah, bap, I think your experience with #2 is par for the course. The only thing I was more vigilant about the second time around was drinking garlic and nettles and a bunch of other foul-tasting crap my midwife shoved at me, to avoid any possible infection during pregnancy/childbirth because we knew the risk was high(ish) because of the Dragon's infection at birth. But ... yeah, anything else? Pfft.
The first time for anything is always the most intense, heightened, etc. Your baby won't know the difference. Maybe you'll even enjoy it more!
What? It's possible.
Also: Congratulations! Could this be the beginning of another OS baby boom? Come on, who's in?
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Permalink Reply by Floor Pie on -
Oh man, I was avoiding this post all day b/c of the title. Congratulations!
And yes, my second pregnancy was more laid back than my first...I'd go to prenatal yoga and I was the only one who didn't know exactly how many weeks along I was. I didn't force-feed myself kale and hard-boiled eggs. Good times.
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Permalink Reply by kanachick on -
You're not over the moon about it because you know what you're getting yourself into this time. The first one is all sunshine and roses and this will be the most perfect ladida! But now you know...it's not that great and other than getting a new person out of it, pregnancy really sucks ass.
But congratulations...it'll be okay....promise.
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