Does anyone else get embarassed?

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Permalink Reply by G to the G on August 4, 2009 at 10:27am

Even though I am a dirty girl ... I do have a hard time with the 'transition'.
Wine helps. A lot.

Mamawho said:

I think part of my problem is reconciling my mom-ness and wife-ness with my sex kitten-ness. I'm getting better about it, though. Maybe I'll come out of my shell about the time GirlWho leaves home.

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Permalink Reply by MamatothaMax on August 4, 2009 at 10:44am

We are pretty open about sex and have set boundaries as to what we are comfortable with by discussing it. I came to the relationship with very little experience and my husband worked for a sex clinic (or whatever you call it) in college. He's heard of everything. He is four years my senior and had several long term girl friends before I came along.

So far things have remained fresh but comfortably familiar and we work on our sex life as much as our marriage and parenting.

The only time I had trouble with the transition was when Mo was a baby. Being thrown up and peed on can be counter sexy.

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Permalink Reply by zenmom on August 4, 2009 at 11:43am

Oh, I actually just wrote a whole blog post on this subject on Sunday!

I've been with my husband for 12-plus years, so it's a bit hard for me to remember what it was like in the beginning when we were less open and communicative about sex. But I can tell you that I think our sex life has only gotten better and better over the years as we've become better and better about communicating.

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Permalink Reply by ruth on August 4, 2009 at 12:38pm

I have no problem talking about sex when it's just general "I like this, do you like that?" kind of stuff, and dirty talk is right up my alley. But if there's a problem, it's really hard because I'm afraid the other person will get defensive. And right now I'm not getting any, at all, and it's really difficult to discuss.

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Permalink Reply by Tea on August 4, 2009 at 1:20pm

I have been very frank about sex in discussions with my boys. They both have severe latex allergies so condoms are going to be a very expensive comoditiy. I told them that I would buy the first one but they better be dam sure about what they are doing and have a job to pay for them after that.

Mamawho said:

Tea, I was raised by my grandmother, who wasn't at all religious, but was a complete prude. She would tell her kids that sex is only good for one thing, and can be avoided altogether by adopting. She and my grandfather had separate bedrooms for 35 years. Maybe this is why I'm a little, uh, repressed. As you can imagine, the only sex information I got was what I found out on my own.

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Permalink Reply by ks on August 4, 2009 at 5:48pm

I used to be, but these days I can talk about just about anything sex related with Mr. S. If I want to try something, I'll just come right out with it and tell him, and he's more or less the same way with me. It makes for a much better (and more adventurous) sex life than we used to have.

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Permalink Reply by sasychica on August 5, 2009 at 2:07pm

Hey Tea- I found a Polysoprene condom made by LifeStyles that is not too expensive and they are super thin. I like them a lot. Latex leaves me feeling itchy and I don't care for using them anymore. These have been really great. Just thought I would pass that info on.

Tea said:

I have been very frank about sex in discussions with my boys. They both have severe latex allergies so condoms are going to be a very expensive comoditiy. I told them that I would buy the first one but they better be dam sure about what they are doing and have a job to pay for them after that.

Mamawho said:

Tea, I was raised by my grandmother, who wasn't at all religious, but was a complete prude. She would tell her kids that sex is only good for one thing, and can be avoided altogether by adopting. She and my grandfather had separate bedrooms for 35 years. Maybe this is why I'm a little, uh, repressed. As you can imagine, the only sex information I got was what I found out on my own.

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Permalink Reply by DoAsDirected on August 7, 2009 at 12:48am

Yes.

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