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Does anyone else get embarassed?
Maybe up here in Canada I'm just too british, but despite having three kids and 12+ years with the same guy, I still find it really hard to *talk* about sex with my spouse without feeling really embarassed. Does anyone else have trouble getting over that (ahem) hump?
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Permalink Reply by Mamawho on
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It's funny - I'm not easily embarrassed, but I feel squirrelly about expressing my needs/desires when talking about sex. I can talk about sex in general, but if I have to get specific, I clam up like a shy kid. I know it's entirely my issue, and has nothing at all to do with my husband. He never demeans or belittles me or my opinions and I'm not at all intimidated by him, and he's never given me any reason to be. I think it's an aversion to exposing my vulnerabilities. Or maybe I'm a closet prude. :)
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Permalink Reply by StitchyWench on -
I've got no problem talking about what I want, when I want it and how I want it. I'm probably too far to the other extreme.
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Permalink Reply by mightyninjamom on -
I used to...but then I figured out that it's easier for me if we're talking about it in a sort of joking way, and once that initial talk was over with, everything else was easier to talk about. It also helps that AlphaGeek is very laid back, and is just sort of used to me saying outrageous things to him to see how he'll react.
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Permalink Reply by Andromeda on -
every time we try to talk about it, it ends up with him feeling like i'm attacking his manhood and me crying because he blames it all on me. but yeah, i have a really hard time talking about my needs. partly because i've never had to be TOLD what to do in this area. i think it is usually pretty obvious when the other person is enjoying what you are doing! however, my husband is so quiet and non-responsive that i never know what he is enjoying and he is incapable of reading me. even after 5 years.
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Permalink Reply by Tea on -
We will have been married for 19 years this month and I still don't like talking about sex.
A lot of that would have to do with my up bringing. God forbid we actually talk about things! I still wouldn't know how things happen if I was waiting to learn from my Mom. "Are You There God its Me Margaret" was far more informative than my Mom ever was ~ I think I just seriously dated myself there!
I have pushed my comfort zone to talk about sex and puberty issues with my boys 15 and almost 13 because I don't want them to feel that they can't talk about it.
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Permalink Reply by Tracy on -
No, but my husband is like this
I could talk about sex all day every day.
My husband turns a pretty shade of red when I talk dirty, or mention sex, or use the word "fuck" but hey, he'll get over it
(side note: he almost ran off the road when I said "rim job" one day.
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Tea, I was raised by my grandmother, who wasn't at all religious, but was a complete prude. She would tell her kids that sex is only good for one thing, and can be avoided altogether by adopting. She and my grandfather had separate bedrooms for 35 years. Maybe this is why I'm a little, uh, repressed. As you can imagine, the only sex information I got was what I found out on my own.
Tea said:We will have been married for 19 years this month and I still don't like talking about sex.
A lot of that would have to do with my up bringing. God forbid we actually talk about things! I still wouldn't know how things happen if I was waiting to learn from my Mom. "Are You There God its Me Margaret" was far more informative than my Mom ever was ~ I think I just seriously dated myself there!
I have pushed my comfort zone to talk about sex and puberty issues with my boys 15 and almost 13 because I don't want them to feel that they can't talk about it.
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Permalink Reply by CrazyPlateFace on
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No, I am never embarassed talking about sex with your spouse.
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Permalink Reply by sasychica on -
I can talk about sex in general all day long, but when it comes to specifics with my partner I sometimes find myself feeling a little "shy". My partner is really comfortable with himself and sex in general-definitely liberating for me.
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Permalink Reply by Lea on -
Yeah, I have to agree with sasychica. Sometimes I get all blushy and a bit shy when askign about a specific to my husband. Which is so odd of me because otherwise I am very open, outspoken and have a raunchy sense of humor.
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Permalink Reply by G to the G on -
Nah. I'm a dirty girl.
My husband can be pretty low key about it. I think its a cultural thing sorta...where its ok to talk about it (especially the naughty naughty portions) if pertains to a stranger but if its me the wife its disrespectful. As I told him years ago...you'll have to get over that...
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