We've been living in this area for almost 4 years now and really don't have any friends. We have some regular faces from the school and I know a couple of people from my part time jobs but nothing you'd call a real friend, friend.
I'm wondering about starting a regular monthly card night. I joined a Bunco group to try and have a social life but Bunco is stupid....I know, the point is not the game but the talking with the other women at the evening out (and drinking but that's not the way it's done in this town). Most of the other women have little wee kids and with my youngest at 6 it's not polite for me to gloat about my full night's sleep every night or the fact that I haven't wiped anyone else's arse in 2 years. Can't imagine why we aren't all hitting it off.
This is the kind of town where everyone grew up here - or they formed friendships when the kids were in preschool and if you didn't get in on the ground floor you don't count. It even happens in the schools where my daughter had a heck of a time making friends because she was (and still is) the new kid.
So I'm wondering if it's weird to start a couples card night - I'd invite a mix of people from the school parents and from work. If you were invited to do something like that would you be interested or does it come off as ooky and desperate?
I was really good about putting myself out there to make friends when we moved to Austin but since moving to NY it's not happening. I know it's February and all that but I'm getting sick of my own company.
So - fabo idea or loser city?
I would definitely come - its been five years here for me and I'm just starting to feel like I am developing friends at work - but I have only been to two events (as a last second Bunco substitute) that weren't work-related events. Our house has been in an almost constant state of repair since we moved so my natural hermit tendencies are encouraged, but it is more than a little depressing trying to break into a crowd who have known each other for decades.
What about reaching out to folks like you who are relatively new to the area? Or give me a week to drive to you and I'll come.