E's first sleep over sans Ma&Pa is scheduled for this weekend. Grammy and Grandpa are a bit too excited about this :) Hubby's work XMas party is Friday night, so the easiest solution is for E to spend the night away. I think everything will be fine, but don't know how the sleeping arrangements will go.
We (still) cosleep- he's 2.5. Part laziness and part "I like us all warm and cozy together". We're just used to it. I have a feeling that Grammy and Grandpa are planning to cosleep as well. Apart from being mildly creepy?, I worry about them being too sound asleep to notice if they're smushing him.
Unless they're holding a kegger that night in celebration of a grandson overnight, or they take heavy narcotics to help them sleep, I can't imagine crushing a 2.5 year old (and my 2.5 year old is tiny by comparison).
Here's how it would go in my parent's house. They all get in bed, hah isn't this fun! Everyone *tries* to go to sleep. Oh my it's somewhere fun and new to sleep over. Where are my parents? WHERE ARE MY PARENTS?! Sleep for 45 minutes, wake up. KICK. Touch people's faces and say, "I got your nose! I press your face!" Sleep for 45 minutes. Rinse, repeat. Right around 2:30am grandpa would go to the couch to get some sleep. I think at about 4am grandma would take off for somewhere. Kid sleeps from 5-7 and I would get one seriously whacked child back the next day:).
I don't think you'll have a danger issue and frankly if you get him used to sleeping over somewhere else now it means more free time for you later!!
He's 2...they won't smush him.
It may be a good time for him to transition to sleeping in a different space though - or to know that at Grandma's (unless they want it this way) that he can sleep on his own.
My mother in law wants the kids to sleep with her when we stay there and I was cool with it up until recently...because I do think it's creepy for a 10 year old boy to share a bed with his grandmother. Can I get a hell yes on that one? Please...because my husband thinks it's warm and loving...
2 is pretty solid. He won' t be smushed.
I don't think it's creepy... I think it's nice that they are respectful of your current arrangement. This whole one person one bed thing is pretty new. But yes, 10 is getting to be a little much. School age is sort of where (along with household nudity) I draw the line.
As a current co-sleeper (a 1 year old and a 5 year old climbs in too) I have to disagree completely about co sleeping with grandparents. How big are your parents? I won't let my 5 year old sleep over my parents house because she likes to climb into bed with us and I truly believe my father would crush/smother her to death if he rolled on her (He is 6'7" and easily 350lbs) or accidentally smother her with a pillow. Throw a little bit of medication, years with no children and exhaustion into the mix... co-sleeping is just dangerous if the adults are not used to it. I also don't think 2.5 is that old/big when you think of the relative size of adults and the fact that grandparents are not used to having a little kid in the bed with them. A rogue pillow could smother the kid. There are just so many things that could go wrong. You and your partner are used to having the kid in bed with you and he probably seems huge to you... not so for grandparents.
I would respectfully ask them not to co-sleep with your child (I asked this of my parents and they said no- which is why the kids will never sleep there). If they insist on sleeping with him... sorry but no overnight.
I am probably crazy. No need to point it out to me :)
I think a 2.5 year old co-sleeping with grandparents is fine. It would be mean to expect him to sleep away from home AND alone, given that he doesn't sleep alone at home.
I co-slept with my grandmother until I was at least 10, and perhaps older.