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Awkward Online Moments

I was on a friend's page on facebook and noticed a post by someone that I knew when I was younger. And when I say "knew" I mean 6 hour phone conversations, heavy make out sessions, and all the love notes you can write. Oh, and when I say "younger" I mean ages 13 - 15. We attended different schools, but met while performing in the local community theater. He was two years older, gorgeous, and the best part was he always seemed totally in to me. Which are all very important things at that age!

As I recall, we just lost touch with each other after hitting those high school freedom years of 16+. I hadn't heard from him or seen him since.

Well, I was stoked about seeing how he's been, what's he doing, married? kids?...the usual. Well, I requested his friendship and within 20 minutes I had a message from him.

It went something like this, "Hello, I just received your friend request. Let me start by apologizing for how uncomfortable this is, and I'm really embarrassed, but I have NO idea as to who you are. Did we go to college together? Can you give me a hint? Your name doesn't ring a bell, and you don't look familiar at all. Do we know each other? Thanks!"

WTF? How do you even respond to that? Basically, I was pretty snarky, and replied, "Apparently not." The really shitty thing is he has like 426 friends. Does he truly know 426 people? Or does he grill them all at friend requests?

Well, if that wasn't bad enough, he replies back the next day. "LOL! I remember you now...I asked some friends and they reminded me that you were one of the old theater kids. I'm sorry I didn't remember you at first. I'm a little slow sometimes. No offense meant"

So, I forgave him and wrote, "Yep, that's me! No offense taken, I understand."

And then, nothing. The ass didn't even approve my friend request.

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Permalink Reply by Mamawho on March 12, 2010 at 1:42pm

Honestly, it just never came up. I spent my childhood chasing this side of my family, desperate for their attention. That side of the family is huge and really close, and I was on the fringes of it. After the last time I was promised that they would be there for something important - my wedding - only to find out at the last minute that they couldn't come but had no intention of letting me know, I quit chasing after them.

DLBK said:

If I found out that I had an aunt all of a sudden I would be sort of annoyed with my parent for hiding it. I'm not saying you might not have your own good reasons for not talking to your sister, but your daughter isn't necessarily going to see it the same way.

Mamawho said:
Cool!

The other weird thing about my sister friending me - my child said, incredulously, "You have a sister?!" And then she was miffed to learn she has cousins she's never met.

T-Rex said:
I have friended some cousins I was close to as a child, and it's been all good. They all moved out of state in the '80s, and I thought I had lost them forever. One of them is coming down with his wife and new baby in a couple of weeks. I am really looking forward to it!

What's funny is that we were all raised Republican, but a bunch of us are liberals now.

Mamawho said:
And this is why I'm super cautious about who I friend. I don't handle rejection well. :)

On a weird note, my sister friended me! Why is that weird? We haven't spoken in 9 years. I didn't recognize her for a few minutes. She looks fantastic, though.

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Permalink Reply by ks on March 12, 2010 at 7:10pm

I was just talking about this subject with my sister last night. Neither of us could remember the names of a few people who were very important to us as teenagers.

Piebrothersmomma said:

Definitely an ass for not friending you after he remembered who you were (maybe he just forgot?) but I have to say that there are a few boys in my past with whom I had similar relationships but that I don't remember their names or even what they looked like. At the time they were very meaningful and important but time has erased much of the detail. Still, I imagine I'd be pretty sad if someone I did remember didn't remember me.

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Permalink Reply by Richelle on March 22, 2010 at 12:33pm

Something along those lines just happened to me last week. I saw someone I remembered from school on Facebook, and his photo was a little baby so I thought "Awwww. I should add him, and congratulate him." .. I got the "Who are you?" response... I was a little put off. I mean, it's not like we were close friends but we did go to school together for years. I think it was just kind of embarassing.