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Awkward Online Moments
I was on a friend's page on facebook and noticed a post by someone that I knew when I was younger. And when I say "knew" I mean 6 hour phone conversations, heavy make out sessions, and all the love notes you can write. Oh, and when I say "younger" I mean ages 13 - 15. We attended different schools, but met while performing in the local community theater. He was two years older, gorgeous, and the best part was he always seemed totally in to me. Which are all very important things at that age!
As I recall, we just lost touch with each other after hitting those high school freedom years of 16+. I hadn't heard from him or seen him since.
Well, I was stoked about seeing how he's been, what's he doing, married? kids?...the usual. Well, I requested his friendship and within 20 minutes I had a message from him.
It went something like this, "Hello, I just received your friend request. Let me start by apologizing for how uncomfortable this is, and I'm really embarrassed, but I have NO idea as to who you are. Did we go to college together? Can you give me a hint? Your name doesn't ring a bell, and you don't look familiar at all. Do we know each other? Thanks!"
WTF? How do you even respond to that? Basically, I was pretty snarky, and replied, "Apparently not." The really shitty thing is he has like 426 friends. Does he truly know 426 people? Or does he grill them all at friend requests?
Well, if that wasn't bad enough, he replies back the next day. "LOL! I remember you now...I asked some friends and they reminded me that you were one of the old theater kids. I'm sorry I didn't remember you at first. I'm a little slow sometimes. No offense meant"
So, I forgave him and wrote, "Yep, that's me! No offense taken, I understand."
And then, nothing. The ass didn't even approve my friend request.
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Permalink Reply by Herasmus B. Dragon on
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Teenage boy not remembering a younger teenage girl? I'm not really surprised. Please don't feel too bad about it. You probably have nothing in common anyway and you might even begin to feel awkward if he HAD approved your request.
T-Rex, I am that type of forgetful person. Drvies Hubby absolutely bonkers.
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Permalink Reply by StitchyWench on -
Don't feel bad. I had a really good friend in seventh grade - like used to hang out all the time, talked about all of our deepest darkest secrets and the fun of being felt up, you know what I mean. When she recently friend requested me, she wrote something along the lines of "Do you remember me from 7th grade before I moved away?" I totally didn't. I looked her up in my year book and remembered that I knew I knew her once but couldn't remember the details of our friendship. Then like a light bulb being switched on, suddenly about a week later I read her status update and it totally triggered all of the memories that were tucked somewhere in my kid brain. I remembered it all.
He may have a thing about not friending married women he doesn't know he knows - so as to not offend anyone. I know I have rules about who I'll friend. If it is somebody I've actually met, and I know I've met them, I'll accept their friend requests. If a million of my friends have somebody as a friend and I know I can verify they are somebody I should know, I'll accept. But sometimes, I get really strange friend requests and I can't figure out who the person is, so I either write them or ignore it.
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Permalink Reply by Floor Pie on -
Wow. It's hard to imagine not remembering something like that. Not a very sentimental guy, I guess. Be glad you didn't end up married to him.
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Permalink Reply by Ellie on -
I wouldn't take it personally. I friended a girl that was actually in my wedding (granted it was in 99 and it wasn't like a WEDDING wedding, it was a JoP and dinner out afterwards) who didn't remember who I was. I wasn't offended. It was a long time ago and we weren't BFFs or anything, but we did spend a lot of time together in college and she was in the wedding more by accident than design. 11 years is a long time.
Now if your family members were like "Um, do I know you?" then I'd be mad. :)
Whoops, I just noticed that he didn't approve your friend request. Dick. Okay, you can be mad. Not knowing who you are right off the bat is one thing, but not approving it after he remembered is another.
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Permalink Reply by G.G. on -
Dude, this has happened to me TWICE in the last 6 months. Two very significant men from my relatively recent past, say 10 years, totally memory flushed portions of our interactions (well one I'd consider a close friend for over 20 years). For 2 days I've been thinking perhaps I wasn't as important to them as they were to me. Which I know shouldn't matter...but damn it!
T-Rex said:Assume he has had a few head injuries since then and move on.
I was talking to an old friend the other day and mentioned what was, to me, an important event, and she had no memory of it. And this is someone I see all the time.
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Permalink Reply by Mamawho on
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And this is why I'm super cautious about who I friend. I don't handle rejection well. :)
On a weird note, my sister friended me! Why is that weird? We haven't spoken in 9 years. I didn't recognize her for a few minutes. She looks fantastic, though.
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Permalink Reply by mightyninjamom on -
What a jackass. Perhaps it is better this way!
I got friended by an ex who obviously did NOT remember how we broke up. A carefully worded message sent his way confirmed that he had no memory of how our short dating relationship ended. I didn't think too much on it, and as we had been friends prior to that I went ahead and friended him. A little later, he made some comment on one of my status updates which prompted me to remind him of what happened, and I immediately got a very vindicating message with profuse apologies. Needless to say, since it was all in the past and he was so oblivious back then, forgiveness was handed out all around and everyone was happy. Even AlphaGeek laughed when I recounted the whole story to him!
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Permalink Reply by MamatothaMax on -
I've been getting friend requests from Sailor's friends from high school and some of the plethora of his cousins. I've accepted some of them (mostly the cousins) but over facebook I've become friends (in the friendly sort of way not the they are in my list of people on facebook kind of way) with some of his high school and college chums. So I'll update Sailor as to how folks are doing and remind him to send Aunt so and so a note for their birthday or say that cousin so and so had a baby.
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Through FB, I've become good friends with one of my husband's cousins. They were really close growing up - nearly like brothers - but I've only met him once, and briefly. It cracks my husband up that I get the family dirt even before his mom does, and she lives in TX, where the family is. And now I know all the dumb and embarrassing stories from his childhood.
MamatothaMax said:I've been getting friend requests from Sailor's friends from high school and some of the plethora of his cousins. I've accepted some of them (mostly the cousins) but over facebook I've become friends (in the friendly sort of way not the they are in my list of people on facebook kind of way) with some of his high school and college chums. So I'll update Sailor as to how folks are doing and remind him to send Aunt so and so a note for their birthday or say that cousin so and so had a baby.
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Cool!
The other weird thing about my sister friending me - my child said, incredulously, "You have a sister?!" And then she was miffed to learn she has cousins she's never met.
T-Rex said:I have friended some cousins I was close to as a child, and it's been all good. They all moved out of state in the '80s, and I thought I had lost them forever. One of them is coming down with his wife and new baby in a couple of weeks. I am really looking forward to it!
What's funny is that we were all raised Republican, but a bunch of us are liberals now.
Mamawho said:And this is why I'm super cautious about who I friend. I don't handle rejection well. :)
On a weird note, my sister friended me! Why is that weird? We haven't spoken in 9 years. I didn't recognize her for a few minutes. She looks fantastic, though.
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Permalink Reply by DLBK on -
If I found out that I had an aunt all of a sudden I would be sort of annoyed with my parent for hiding it. I'm not saying you might not have your own good reasons for not talking to your sister, but your daughter isn't necessarily going to see it the same way.
Mamawho said:Cool!
The other weird thing about my sister friending me - my child said, incredulously, "You have a sister?!" And then she was miffed to learn she has cousins she's never met.
T-Rex said:I have friended some cousins I was close to as a child, and it's been all good. They all moved out of state in the '80s, and I thought I had lost them forever. One of them is coming down with his wife and new baby in a couple of weeks. I am really looking forward to it!
What's funny is that we were all raised Republican, but a bunch of us are liberals now.
Mamawho said:And this is why I'm super cautious about who I friend. I don't handle rejection well. :)
On a weird note, my sister friended me! Why is that weird? We haven't spoken in 9 years. I didn't recognize her for a few minutes. She looks fantastic, though.
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Permalink Reply by Piebrothersmomma on -
Definitely an ass for not friending you after he remembered who you were (maybe he just forgot?) but I have to say that there are a few boys in my past with whom I had similar relationships but that I don't remember their names or even what they looked like. At the time they were very meaningful and important but time has erased much of the detail. Still, I imagine I'd be pretty sad if someone I did remember didn't remember me.
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