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Accommodations are NOT special treatment....
..... ARG.
Why do I have this battle every school year with teachers? There is ALWAYS at least one that just really resists the IEP. I feel like I'm warping back to the 40's every frickin' time I hear this come from some teacher's mouth. My son's accommodations are fairly simple -- things like small group testing. He's IN AN INCLUSION TEAM.
Don't teach in an inclusion model if you can't bear the thought of accommodations in your classroom. Or go teach at a private school where they keep the disabled kids out. Seriously.
I mean, c'mon already!!!
This particular teacher wrote me to tell me he got a D+ on a quiz, and then (without me asking her) let me know that "his IEP does not include an accommodation for retesting (actually, it doesn't because retesting on anything under a C is a school policy.... so its not even an accommodation for HIM, its a policy for ALL THE KIDS).... and then, when he did get to take the retest (because in addition to being a special needs kid, he is also a human child in the school population with the policy on retesting), she wrote to tell me that she had "never been informed" of his accommodations".
Um, did you read the IEP or didn't you? I don't get it?
Luckily, he has a really good Inclusion Teacher. We had a good laugh about it, because you know she's got her hands full when her content teachers are like this. She's handling it. But.... dude... if you have to be "handled", you're a prima donna who probably should be working in the private sector.
That is all.
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Permalink Reply by ferret on
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its tough for it not to haunt me. I've suffered most of my life without any "special treatment" or "whatever" you want to term it.(lemme throw in some more quotes) It is suffering to perceive things differently and have to compete with everyone else who understands things "normally". Having to compete when the playing fields are not level causes me so much stress. I actually had someone at my work call me "needy". And later I thought, yes if you had to deal with what goes on in my head all the time you'd be needy too. There are no easy answers.
I really hope that what I suspect is ADHD in my kid is not.
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Permalink Reply by wookie on -
Floor Pie said:
If by haunting you mean making me fustrated, sure. It sucks to have reaffirmed that (some) teachers think disability accommodations are unfair and disruptive and damaging to others. It feels like something I've been fighting for 2 decades just got shoved back to square 1. Like all the advocacy classes I've taken or seminars I've been in are still completely useless, because of the perspective expressed above.I have to say, this whole discussion and the weird tangent it took has been haunting me all week. Anyone else?
I really hope that what I suspect is ADHD in my kid is not.
I feel like I need to interject. If you're like me, you have a lot of mind-threads on spin cycle constantly. But it's rarely productive to focus on some of those threads... in fact focusing on one that can't be resolved can snarl up the whole works.
Don't stress too much about it. Even if it is, your kid has someone who understands what they are going through in their corner. Don't waste valuable headspace on something you cannot change.
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can you engrave this on the inside of my skull and eyelids?
cancel spin cycle, anybody have a funny graphic for that phrase....i need to do a meditation on it asap!/ yesterday
I really hope that what I suspect is ADHD in my kid is not.
I feel like I need to interject. If you're like me, you have a lot of mind-threads on spin cycle constantly. But it's rarely productive to focus on some of those threads... in fact focusing on one that can't be resolved can snarl up the whole works.
Don't stress too much about it. Even if it is, your kid has someone who understands what they are going through in their corner. Don't waste valuable headspace on something you cannot change.
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Permalink Reply by Floor Pie on -
Just one more thing to add after a particularly shitty day:
Not accomodating special needs? Way more damaging for all concerned than accomodating them.
Actually, two more things:
Being genuinely nice, patient, and empathetic to the folks at the school, no matter how pissed off and heartbroken and scared you're feeling? That pays off. At least it has so far.
Deep breaths, everyone. Let's enjoy our well-deserved weekend.
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